But what does that mean?#Balance for better?
Today is not about a battle of the sexes. It’s not about comparing women to men, or proving which is better, stronger or cleverer. Today is not even about asking whose role is more important and whether stay-at-home carers matter more than those who earn money. In my eyes, they are both hard work.
Today is about recognising that despite wishing it were not the case, in many parts across the world, women are still treated as second class citizens. In education, religion, politics, leadership and business, many women who are bright and able are not allowed the choice to be the person they were meant to be.
In the West we probably can’t fully understand this kind of oppression. Despite rumblings of inequality in the UK (and the UK pay gap is but one measure of this), we know nothing compared to our sisters around the world who face much greater opposition.
It’s true that in the UK we continue to have to nag away at ‘accepted norms’ and stereotypes. To reduce the disadvantage that women often face, and the historical beliefs and structural challenges that make pure equality very hard to deliver. But compared to many women we must be grateful that we have role models who have risked their lives to break through those imposed barriers and paved the way for us.
Some of the women I am truly grateful for – Emmeline Pankhurst, the women’s suffragette leader who gave women the right to vote, Mother Teresa, who showed tremendous compassion and humility yet walked on the world’s stage, Laura Ashley and Anita Roddick – both female entrepreneurs who made a difference within a feminine power. Jocelyn Bell Burnell – a female physicist who first discovered pulsars at the end of the 1960s. The discovery was recognised by the award of the 1974 Nobel Prize in Physics, but despite the fact that she was the first to observe the pulsars, Bell was not one of the recipients of the prize.In 2018, she was awarded the Special Breakthrough Prize in Fundamental Physics. She gave the whole of the £2.3m prize money to help women, ethnic minority, and refugee students become physics researchers.
Who are the women who have inspired you? What are their qualities and traits that have driven you forward, helped you feel great about yourself, made you believe in more?
For me these women showed strength in the face of massive challenges and family responsibility. They showed courage in the face of great fear and opposition. They showed humility and prowess. They showed grace and love.
Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could all emulate these qualities. Then, certainly, we would have #balance for better.
#internationalwomensday #women #inspiration #future
According to a recent survey* adults in the UK spend nearly four hours a day watching TV. This doesn’t account for the time they’re spending on social media sites like Facebook and Instagram.
I’ve got nothing against TV; in fact I can really enjoy a good Scandi murder series like anyone else! At the end of a long day, an hour relaxing in front of the telly can be an ideal way to relax before bed. The issue here is not whether to watch, but how much.
If you find you’re watching a lot of TV, you might ask yourself why? Is it valuable food for your mind? Is it just passing time, or moving wallpaper? Is it a distraction from what you really should be doing? Or is it a way of ignoring the little voice in your head that tells you your life is worth more than this?
It’s so immediate, it’s really easy to find that we just flick the switch (or these days say ‘Telly On’), slouch down on the sofa and a few hours pass by. Is it really worthwhile though? Many of us want to run away from the pain of our daily lives by escaping into other people’s lives. It’s well known that soap operas and dramas are designed to include a cliffhanger deliberately to keep us addicted to the storyline, and stay watching.
It’s often more interesting to see other people’s problems so that we don’t have to face our own. Sadly, all this does is drive us further and further away from creating a solution to our own issues.
I would like to offer you a challenge if you know this is you. I would like you to think of designing your own life so that it has all the excitement of a soap opera with less of the drama! How can you feel more alive, do something that gets you up in the morning with joy, and enables you to create the life of your dreams?
The biggest problem that stops most people doing this is money. If this is you, you will fully appreciate how much of a challenge it is to change your life, ditch your job and do what you feel passionate about. Who will pay the mortgage and the bills? Who will take on board all your responsibilities?
How would it be if you could find another way to create income that doesn’t rely on your time? What about if you gave up a couple of hours of telly watching to learn how to invest in property so that you could make money without a job?
Investing in property allows you to make money without a job. It relies instead on your insider knowledge, your expertise and your contacts. If, through what you knew you could make a thousand, five thousand or ten thousand extra pounds per month how would that change your life? You may think this is ‘pie in the sky’ but I have seen ordinary people, like you, with families, children, jobs and mortgages create thousands of pounds of extra income per month.
How? They’ve done this through investing in HMOs. Houses of Multiple Occupation. I’d love to share with you how I took an ordinary house and turned it into a 7 bed HMO making me over £1500 income per month. And how I did this with very little of my own money.
If you’d be prepared to give up a couple of hours next Sunday night at 7.30pm I’ll be sharing with you – – Why you feel stuck if you are in a job – How to buy property with other people’s money – How to achieve financial freedom with just 5 properties – How to use a simple 5 step system to build your property portfolio.
In addition, for attending the webinar I will send you my unique 7-Step ‘Investor-Ready’ Process to make sure you are prepared for raising all the money for all the property you ever want!
I look forward to seeing you there. Sunday 24th February at 7.30pm.
Mick Regan was a stay-at-home dad with a busy schedule when I first met him. He had been made redundant from a well-paid job, and was now able to to spend more time at home with his children, which was great. However, he realised that unless he did something soon, his redundancy money would soon be spent!
While it feels nice to buy all those things you’ve always wanted, Mick knew that he needed to replace his income FAST. His redundancy pot was not massive, and he knew that he could fritter it away if he didn’t have an investment plan.
He didn’t know much about HMOs except that they could make him much more money faster than a single buy to let property. So he joined me on my HMO Magical Mentoring Programme and started to look for his first property. Using the knowledge, information and systems from the programme he found an amazing deal almost straight away.
It was a three storey house that had been neglected, and included the bonus of a basement flat conversion. By this time his confidence had grown enough to put in a cheeky offer, and it was accepted. Here are the figures from this, his very first deal:
£178k purchase price
£82k refurb costs
£35k left in the deal
£2500pcm (5 units @ £500pcm)
£600pcm (basement flat)
£3100pcm Gross income (£37200 pa)
The amazing thing that happened to Mick was that after this experience he just got bolder and bolder. He continued to raise money and do deals and he now has a portfolio worth over £1m.
Here’s what he said about working with me’
I started out knowing nothing about HMOs. Wendy taught me how to find the right ones in the right area, and rinse and repeat it. My first HMO makes me £1600 profit per month (fully managed in Stockport) and I now have a pipeline of deals worth over £600k”
It all started with a small investment pot and a desire to create income with what he had.
Could you do that too? Yes you could…
Contact me NOW if you want to find out how you can achieve the same things that Mick did. I offer a FREE 30 minute consultation call to explore your options and see if mentoring is right for you.
Here’s the link to book your call: https://fwfozt-free.10to8.com/
What’s on your gift list?
Do you have a book you’re hoping someone will buy you?
These are the books on my list (hint hint) … anyone??!!
The 80/20 Principle: The Secret of Achieving More with Less by Richard Koch
ReWork: Change the Way You Work Forever by Jason Fried (Author), David Heinemeier Hansson (Author)
Doughnut Economics: Seven Ways to Think Like a 21st-Century Economist Kindle Edition by Kate Raworth (Author)
What’s on your book list?
I hated school. I really did. Ask my parents, and they’ll tell you how much I resisted getting up in the morning, I resisted getting dressed. I resisted homework. In fact I was pretty good at finding a number of reasons why I should not have to go to school. I didn’t think that school was important, or that I was learning anything useful and I believed that the subjects were completely irrelevant to my life.
And the end result: I failed miserably at my ‘A’ Levels. A year later, with some theatrical experience under my belt, I scraped into a college of Higher Education to do a Drama degree.
What astonished me immediately, was how much I enjoyed it. I bounced out of bed in the morning. I rushed to my lectures to be there on time (gasp!). I spent time in the library, reading and applying myself. Even when I was struggling, I somehow found the focus to keep going. I ended up getting a BA (Hons) 2:1 in Creative Arts. When I phoned my parents to tell them, I think my mum nearly fainted with amazement.
What I realised was this: to learn at your best and your highest level you need to find out what intrinsically motivates you and then spend time learning this on your own terms. I chose the college I attended, I chose the course, and I chose the time commitment. Somehow these three factors had a massive impact on me, to the extent that on the day of graduation, I said “I could do that degree all over again. I LOVED it”.
Fast forward many years later and I felt as equally trapped as I had done at school. Only ironically I was now the teacher, and had a teaching role in Higher Education! In truth, I loved teaching and sparking the process of an amazing lightbulb moment where a student grasped a new concept or understood a theory for the first time. Working directly with students was what I loved best. There were much wider political and structural forces at work, though, that meant I was often drawn into debates and challenges that had really nothing to do with teaching. I began to feel that there were no other options but to pursue this career to the exclusion of all else. Forever, until I retired. And that I resented.
Now, at the age of nearly forty, I could feel that same resistance I felt when I was a teenager. “I don’t want to get up. I don’t want to get dressed and go to work. I want a hot dinner not a packed lunch”!
I took a long hard look at my life and realised that I had stopped learning. I had cornered myself into a small place and it was time to expand my mind and my reality. As a side-line and a future legacy for my children, I had been developing another small income stream from a few single buy-to-let properties. But I had ignored it, and become rather blase about this small portfolio. This moment of emptiness with my job made me realise that the time to make a change was now. If I didn’t take the leap now (even with a job and four children to manage) I would never do it.
So I started to educate myself. I attended loads of webinars and networking meetings. I read books and subscribed to relevant magazines. I asked lots of questions and attended courses. And more courses!
And I started to buy bigger houses to convert into Houses of Multiple Occupation.
I began to apply what I was learning, and this made me hungry for more. My resistance lowered. I WANTED to learn, I wanted to read and know and I wanted to be AN EXPERT at what I did. I recognised that I was intrinsically motivated to learn how to create HMOs, how to create passive income and how to become financially free…
It’s true that for me, traditional education felt like a waste of time. Only learning what I was self-motivated to learn has ever inspired me enough to maintain my interest. Staying the course depends on you having the interest and aspiration that you feel for the subject matter.
Since that time, I recognise that I love entrepreneurship, business, communications, and people. These are the areas of life that I could study all day long.
It makes it even more fun when I apply it too.
You have to take risks when you are learning something you’re motivated to learn that’s not a school subject. People will think you’re a bit crazy, stupid or mad. No worries. Let ‘em think it.
- Stay centred on your passion.
- Make time for learning – theory and practice
- Keep applying what you’ve learned to make it fresh and real (practice)
- Take a break when you need some space to cogitate
- Invest wisely – books, courses, materials.
And above all, find something you are intrinsically motivated to learn. Whether it’s crochet, cookery or computing. Patchwork, pottery or property. As Ray Croc, the McDonald’s owner once said ‘When you’re green you’re growing, when you’re ripe you rot’!
Who says you’re not going fast enough? Have you been telling yourself you’re not achieving enough as you seem to be going so slowly? Maybe you feel frustrated because you’re not getting customers, clients, or property deals as fast as other people seem to?
There are often a few reasons why you might feel exacerbated by your apparent lack of progress and I thought I would share the most common ones. When you’ve made that amazing and courageous decision to break out of your current life and start investing in property, or start your own business, you’ll probably be hoping that just your excitement and nervous energy will bring progress! Sadly, it doesn’t. Well, not on a consistent basis. So what is slowing you down, and what can you do to overcome this feeling of frustration?
In the following list of five reasons you might recognise something that you’re doing or believing which resonates with you and which you need to work on first.
You hold the belief that there is an ideal speed at which your business or investing *should* be expanding. You are comparing yourself to that inner belief and find yourself falling short.
You are comparing yourself to other people without knowing the background, education or prior knowledge of those people. They may have a hidden unfair advantage. So the comparison is untrue and unfair.
Your business doesn’t exist in a vacuum. If you are also a parent, or currently employed, or in a relationship, or committed to other activities (hobbies, community activities, charitable work) this will have a big effect on how quickly you can accelerate your business.
You have unrealistic expectations of success. This is where having an expert or mentor who can help you ‘keep it real’ but still attain your stretch goals is crucial.
You don’t have a clear plan, with measurable actions and a focus on process.
You know you need to make some changes, so what can you do?
Create a plan that has clear activities that you plot immediately into your calendar. Focus on activities that produce a positive process that will become a habit. Link these clearly to your goals. Include activities related to the other areas of your life that are a priority. If you are really committed to this process, ask someone else for their feedback on your plan. That will make it much more real.
Find someone to whom you are accountable on a VERY regular basis – at least monthly and preferably weekly.
CUT OUT THE RUBBISH! Anything and everything that saps your energy, belief, focus, strength and courage – GET RID OF. Yes it’s dramatic and radical. But if you’re going to achieve what you want AND ensure your children still recognise you, you have to be radical.
Consistency. It’s better to do an hour a day consistently than plan to do 7 hours once a week, but inconsistently. If you plan your time (see point 1 above) you will be amazed how much you can get done simply by getting up one hour earlier per day. It creates momentum, scale and compounding. (Here’s a really useful site if you’d like to have accountability for when you work – check this out https://www.focusmate.com)
Energy management. ‘The world belongs to the energetic’ as Ralph Waldo Emerson once said. If you’re not getting a good night’s sleep, eating good nutrition and taking daily exercise you will not have the energy to manage your current lifestyle AND accelerate your business growth.
STOP comparing yourself to other people. Like a horse on parade day, you need to wear blinkers to shield yourself from what everyone is doing and how everyone else’s success appears.
Take one day at a time. Plan it carefully, leave some space for emergencies, focus on energy management and remember to breathe!
And finally, you need courage to start something new and carry it through to fruition. Whether that is a plan for financial freedom, doubling the profits of your business, creating a magical marriage, being the very best parent you can be (or all four)! Whatever your path is, dig deep to ensure that your direction is in line with the real you, for that will unleash your bravery. Sounds esoteric but unless you start to figure out who you are in this big wide world, you will never travel a path that is enjoyable and fulfilling. Ultimately that will shape your success as much as implementing the practical steps above.
Have courage, be brave and be bold. I look forward to seeing your accelerated progress!
To your growth
When I was at secondary school it has to be said that if they’d done ‘A’ levels in Boys, Parties and Nightclubs, I would have got three A*s. Unfortunately they didn’t, so I didn’t get those results either. In fact I really spectacularly failed to achieve what I was capable of in the subjects I chose which were English, Biology and French.
Why was this? Well I wasn’t really interested in them. I had better things to do with my time! I saw little purpose in them long-term and they were mostly theoretical.
I think many people who become property investors have had similar experiences to me, and find themselves having a hard time breaking through the belief that they are not clever enough, not good enough or not talented enough to do property. I wrestled with that too. Until I realised that education in the property world is very different.
For a start it requires you to take RISKS. There is no certainty that you will get the outcome you want. In fact you need to have the mindset of growth and learning at all times to manage this fear of failure. Secondly it takes COURAGE – you have to put your money, your time, even your reputation on the line. People may scoff, ridicule or undermine you and you have to find the courage to believe in yourself. Thirdly you have to take practical ACTION. Theory is all very well but until you put your learning on the line, you will never become a real investor.
In fact, in contrast to what you learn at school, property requires COLLABORATION not competition, and there are no tests to pass except the ones you set yourself. It is about intrinsic not external motivation, and there is no-one who will judge your achievements based on a set of rules. So that should make us all really motivated to do property right?!
WRONG! Because our ‘school mindset’ is so deeply embedded within us, it’s really hard to let go of it! Having the right mindset and the right skillset is VITAL so that you do not get upset (as one of my mentors once taught me).
I know that if you are interested in HMOs (Houses of Multiple Occupation) as a way of making £1000 profit per property per month, you will probably have lots of questions and rightly so! You need to be educated to make this strategy work for you. But you need to be educated RIGHT by someone who has done it and got the experience.
I started to invest in HMOs just over 5 years ago, and after just 2 and a half years set myself and my husband free from our day jobs! YAAY! We have over 100 HMO rooms now and it gives us the income to do what WE want with our time, not what someone else tells us to do!
Which is why on SATURDAY 21ST JULY IN LONDON I will be spending time on YOUR mindset AND your skillset! That’s if you will let me ….
is coming to LONDON on 21st July. The workshop is completely FREE to attend and you can choose a morning or an afternoon session.
Not only will you learn exactly how to invest in HMOs – how to find them, plan them out and make them work efficiently, you will also learn how to have the right MINDSET to attract investors, to grow your business and to become financially free.
If you are SCARED, SLOW OR STUCK then you need this event to help you become BRISK, BOLD AND BRAVE!
I look forward to seeing you there – tickets are limited so please make sure you reserve your space immediately to ensure you get a seat!
To your HMO success
If you are feeling like you are going really slowly in your business, or maybe your property portfolio is just not taking off as you wanted it to, or perhaps other areas of your life feel like they are dragging the very life and soul out of you, I’d like to give you some help. I can understand the frustration and energy-sapping feeling that you *could* go so much faster, if a certain problem wasn’t in your way or such-and-such a thing worked better. Know what I mean? Internally we often blame other people, our circumstances or our background. But actually the reason we are going slowly is down to our own perceptions and thoughts, not because of THINGS or PEOPLE or CIRCUMSTANCES.
How can you regain momentum and pace if you feel you are going just TOO slowly?
- Write down the 5 steps (or more) that you need to do to make your goal a reality. If it’s to become financially free, then write down the incremental steps that will get you there, and focus on each one, one at a time. Don’t fall into the temptation of looking too far ahead, or dreaming about how it will feel when you get all the five steps completed. Simply work at each step one at a time, do what’s needed to complete that step, and lo and behold, financial freedom will follow.
- Say NO to everything that is not vital for the achievement of your goals. Be RADICAL MAN! DELETE everything in your diary that doesn’t contribute to to a step in the plan to achieve what you want to do. Your daily habits, tasks, behaviours sow seeds in all areas of your life. If those activities are not helping you make DAILY progress towards your goals let them go. You need to commit to an additional 35% of your time per week to get your business from tickover to take off. If you don’t say no to current things, where are you gonna find the time to insert new, important things into your life?
- Carve out the time to make what you wanna happen, happen. It won’t happen by magic. You have to decide how much time to give it, write it down and DO It. If it means getting up an hour earlier, going to bed an hour later or ditching TV twice a week – make time – carve this out, and within a fortnight you will start to see a massive difference in your pace.
Finally, I believe that speaking out your goals and declaring them to the world will affirm your message and your mission like nothing else will! Shout it out! Tell the world what you’re gonna be and do. Get behind your own message with powerful words and affirmations and the momentum will accelerate exponentially!
If you’re stuck you simply do not know where to turn or what to do. The first piece of advice I’d give is that LISTENING to others is the key to unlocking being stuck.
- Talk to 20 people who are doing or have done what you are trying to do and get their advice and guidance. Listen with humility and gratitude. Hear what other people say, listen and listen again. Record the conversation – listen to yourself and listen to others, and KEEP LISTENING.
- Try some brand new education such as investing in some quality coaching, an online learning programme, or some relevant mentoring.
- In my experience being stuck is caused by refusal to take a risk. What are you running away from? What area of your life do you need to stop ignoring and start paying attention to? Where are you fleeing the fear?
Feeling scared when trying something new is a perfectly normal reaction! It is nature’s way of protecting us from harm. But when fear makes you scared to do take action, you need to address it fast. FEAR stands for False Expectations Appearing Real. In our minds we tend to exaggerate worst-possible outcomes in order to prepare our minds for action. Mostly this just causes procrastination, doubt and more fear!
Three suggestions to overcome fear:
- Read ‘Feal the Fear and Do it Anyway’ By Susan Jeffers – a great little book with reasons why we fear and the practices we can habitualise to overcome our fear.
- Write down 50 reasons why you need to do the very thing you are fearful of.
- Write down all the reasons your fear will HELP you. Will it make you more alert to danger, will it help you determine project risks, will it make you create a Plan B in case things go wrong? Make fear your friend, not your enemy and use its power to help you overcome your challenges.
Fear is feelings based. So to overcome it we can look deep within ourselves to understand why am I feeling this way, or to ask ourselves when have I felt this way before, and how can I change my feelings about this thing.
Slow – SHOUT IT OUT AND AFFIRM YOUR LIFE
Stuck – LISTEN TO OTHERS AND TAKE A RISK
Scared – FEEL THE FEELING AND MAKE IT YOUR FRIEND.
Let me know how you get on applying these lessons!
To your growth
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